It is not shameful thing to have an autistic child. Hey, I'm autistic and I'm a published writer. I have had about two dozen news articles published in The Oakland Press and I am writing a blog that has received 2300 hits in more than fifteen countries. You are reading that blog right now. How many people can say they have done that?
Some parents try to hide their child's autism from friends and associates. "Oh, I'm sure he'll grow out of it," becomes a common phrase used by parents to explain their child's behavior. No. Their child does not need to grow up. Any parent who tries to deny their child's autism needs to grow up and get their eyes checked, because they cannot see that gifted individual who is their child for who he (or she) really is. To deny that a child has autism is to deny that child the life they would have had if the parent had thought about meeting the needs of their child, rather than trying to make that child "normal."
The best thing to do is to take a step back and try to understand, okay, I didn't ask for this, but this is what I have. I owe it to my child to step up and understand that my life will not be how I planned it to be. Raising an ASD child will a hard, but enriching experience. My child didn't ask for this either and any actions I take now will impact my child the rest of his (or her) life. For better or worse.