INFP/Autism Dating Curse

Building from the topic I started my last blog post, the INFP personality type is an uncommon type.  Only about four percent of the population has this personality type compared to the fifteen other types on the Myers-Briggs scale.  Even more interesting, the INFP type is more frequently found in women than men.

Therefore, since I am a male INFP, I have found myself subjected to gender stereotypes all throughout my life.  The American society expects men to be, for a lack of a better word, manly.  That is, men are expected to be decisive and assertive problem solvers.  In my case, I would much rather allow a conflict to happen passively than try to take action and do something about it and expose myself to more emotional pain than I would feel by doing nothing..  This is not something I do whole-heartedly; I am often at inner conflict about this aspect of myself.  

It also makes it very difficult to date.  I haven't had an official girlfriend in about five years.  It's been more than four years since I've even been on a date.  Both INFP and autistic individuals find dating to be very intimidating, the combined total has made my dating life miserable to experience and nostalgic to look back on.  Summoning the resolve to ask out a girl, who might say no, stretches my anxiety to the limit. This is not helped by the fact that in this society, men are expected to ask women out and not the other way around.  Much to my disadvantage.

To sum it all up, being a male INFP with autism in the world of dating makes me feel like a hairless cat being entered into a competitive dog show.  It is not easy by any means.  It's reached the point where it's more trouble than it's worth for me to force myself to approach girls.  I'm just living my life with the belief that the right woman will walk into my life and make the first move.  Other than that, I will continue to write my fantasy series without the fear of a family complicating my dream of becoming the next great writer.  It doesn't mean that I don't want a family, but it's sort of become a way for me to justify, both to others and to myself, exactly why I have such a hard time dating.

INFP and Autism: An Introduction

During this next series of posts on The Voice from the Spectrum, I am going to expand on a topic that has been of great interest to my lately.  A few years ago, I identified myself as an INFP personality type, identified using the "Myers-Briggs" scale (information found at this website).  This personality type is referred to by different resources as an Idealist or a Healer.

To give a little background information, the 16 personality types described on this scale are evaluated using the following criteria: someone could be an introvert or an extrovert, depending on whether they draw internal energy from themselves or from other people; people can take in information  Intuitively by seeing the big picture or Sensory by focusing intensely on the details; people can be driven by logic as a Thinker or emotions as a Feeler; and people can live their lives by Perceiving spontaneously or by Judging in an orderly fashion.

Each of the sixteen personality types presents its own strengths and challenges.  For example, as an INFP, I am very good at writing.  Many of the world renowned fantasy writers, such as J.R.R. Tolkien and J.K. Rowling have this personality type.  People who are INFP are very creative in general and are interested in helping the underdog through a cause of some sort.  Well, my cause at this stage in my life is to raise autism awareness in a way that only I can.

Some weaknesses associated with this personality type include the following: people who are INFP have an extreme dislike of conflict and will go to great lengths to avoid conflict; people who are INFP view any type of criticism as an attack on their entire character, but might show nothing of this pain to an observer.  These two weaknesses are a very big concern to me right now in my life.

I searched the Web to see if there are any resources that describe how INFP characteristics and autistic characteristics might interact with each other.  Finding none, I am going to try to create a resource myself right here on The Voice from the Spectrum.  This will certainly answer many questions I have about myself, as well as possibly prompting others to see how autism might interact with the other fifteen personality types.

A Heavy Question about Autism

I have a question for my readers that I hope will cause a discussion on this topic: do you think that people on the spectrum are prone to weight issues?  I am bringing up this topic for a couple reasons.  First of all, many medications used to treat negative autistic characteristics such as Risperdal cause an increase of appetite.  I have taken Risperdal for the past twelve years, and ever since that time I have been overweight.  Also, obsessive autistic behavior can cause habit where someone on the spectrum has to eat something at a certain time or they experience sensory issues.   Whether this same problem is common for people on the spectrum is a question I am trying to find out.  What do you think?

Dennis Leary Autistic Statement Response

I have never been particularly fond of practical jokes.  I personally prefer slapstick comedy like "The Three Stooges," or "America's Funniest Home Videos," or even "World's Dumbest Drivers."  However, in my experience, practical jokes are normally someone laughing at my expense.  I just never know how to react.

Recently, actor Dennis Leary made comments in his book about autism that has greatly offended many parents of autistic children as a joke.  Now, Leary is a good actor.  I particularly like the character "Diego" from the "Ice Age" franchise.  It won't stop me from seeing the new "Ice Age" movie. However, I can honestly say that I was offended by his statements that blamed parents for the behavior of their autistic children and stating that autistic kids are just "lazy" or "stupid."

That really irks me to no end.  I may have had difficulties in my own past where even I considered myself stupid, but in five months I will graduate from college with a Bachelor of Science and a 3.3 GPA.  If that is considered "stupid" then we really need to rethink our priorities as a society.  Jokes are supposed to be funny. Comparing stupid or lazy people to those many people on the spectrum is a very poor excuse for a joke, in my opinion.

To read the article about Leary's comments made in his book, click here.

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 07/23 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into my next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  During this show, I will talk about the strategies that I used to obtain a marketing internship last week with a local condominium developer in the area.  I talked about autism during that interview and was able to turn it into something positive.  To find out how, tune into the broadcast at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  Remember that you can call into the show to ask questions you might have about the broadcast material by dialing (619) 393-2848 or by using Skype on the show screen after the broadcast starts.  You can also participate in the chat room by supplying appropriate feedback and thoughts about the program.  Tune into what will surely be another great broadcast.
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Join me for the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  This week's show will feature guest, Stephanie Aberlich, who is the owner of Hatch Boutique photography studio.  Stephanie has taken photos of man special needs children.  She also teaches photography to autistic children in classes offered by OUCARES.

This broadcast will air at a slightly different time than normal.  The show will air Tuesday, July 17th at 3 pm EST, 12 pm PST, and 8 pm UK time.

Remember, as always, the chat room will be open for comments and feedback.  You can also call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can all in through Skype.  Remember to tune into what will surely be another great and insightful broadcast!

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Autistic Musical Prodigy

It's been a while since I have shared an autism success story, so I thought I should share this video that was recently brought to my attention.  This six your old boy is nothing short of amazing.  I could prattle on about this, but I'm going to keep this short so that you can view the video and draw your own judgment.  I'm only going to say that this is an example of what an individual with autism can accomplish under the right conditions with a proper support group.  Without further ado, click here to view the video.

Moving on...And Moving Out

A big question on the mind of many young adults with high functioning autism is gaining independence.  For many, this is a very difficult question indeed.  Autism presents many challenges for both children and parents. Aspirations that are shared by NT young adults, such as moving out, getting a place of their own, are much more complicated.

In my case, I am nearing the end of college.  By the end of this year, I will have my Bachelor Degree.  Sometime next year, I will finally move out and get a place of my own.  The notion of gaining independence, while challenging, is not as difficult for me as it would be for many on the high functioning end of the spectrum.  

Now, I offer something that I have said repeatedly on my radio programs in recent weeks: everyone on the autism spectrum is different than one another.  What might work for one person might not work for another.   As much as I would like to say it, there is no manual for autism.  

Before despairing, remember that living as an NT is difficult to.  For the autistic individual who feels that no one understands them, try to remember that most NT's don't understand each other either.  You don't have to look very far.  Just look at the current presidential race.  Republican and Democrats are at each other's throats and have been that way for a long time and will probably continue to be that way for years to come.  These are NTs who have very different ideas of how things should be done.  Both sides have different belief systems, and many claim not to understand each other.  So my message to those who effected by the spectrum, try to think of this example when things get hard.

So, going back now to the topic of independent living; I don't have all the answers to your problems.  What I can say is that you are not the only one with these difficulties.  There are many people impacted by autism.  So, if you would like, leave comments with any concerns you might have about independent living with high functioning autism.  Who knows: if I don't have the answers, maybe another one of my readers will.  I believe that under the right conditions with the right support group, and individual on the autism spectrum can literally change the world.  For some, that change starts right here: with The Voice from the Spectrum.  It starts with many difficulties that I have now overcome.

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 07/09 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Join me for my next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.   I'm back again after Independence Day and this week I will be talking about day camps that are available for individuals who are on the autism spectrum.

After I was diagnosed with high functioning autism at age 12, my mom signed me up for a local summer day camp for children and teens with special needs.  This camp is called Clarkson Scamp.  It runs for five weeks and consists of many activities that will be discussed during the broadcast.

You can join the discussion too by calling (619) 393-2848 during the broadcast or you can call in through Skype by selecting the Skype logo which will appear after the broadcast begins.  Tune into what will surely be another can't-miss broadcast!

This show will air on Monday, July 9th at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  Click here when it is time for the show to start.

Another Celebrity Puts a Foot in His Mouth

Comments recently made by a well known celebrity have angered members of the autistic community.  Rapper 50 Cent made comments on his Twitter page that were offensive to individuals with autism and shows what a long way to go we have until we are able to spread enough autism awareness and acceptance in the world.

Whatever faults that 50 Cent has as a person is overshadowed by his presence in pop culture.  It is also important to consider the accompanying influence the popular rapper has over his fans, which are great in number.  Most of his fans that saw that statement on Twitter probably do not know or care about the public outrage this has caused.  I agree that 50 Cent's public apology is not enough.  

The damage has already been done.  A great number of people witnessed that statement and have been influenced by the words of this misguided celebrity.  What we need to do now is give this story as much exposure as possible so that the knowledge to fans that their celebrity icon spoke out of turn.

For more information about 50 Cent's remarks and the public response, click here.

Overloaded...Commencing Shutdown..!

Did you know that there are two ways that autistic individuals can become overwhelmed by sensory stimuli?  You have probably heard of the term meltdown. This is an external way of displaying the stress that sensory overload can sometimes cause that may result in violent outbursts, but have you heard of the term shutdown?  It is another way for an autistic individual to cope with extreme sensory overload internally.

I had never heard of the term shutdown until a few weeks ago.  Once I realized what it meant, I noticed that there are many instances in my life when my mind does shut down.  At these times, I may struggle to give simple answers, such as (I work at a grocery store) "where are the CDs located?"  

This actually did happen once a few years ago.  A customer at the grocery store I work at asked where the CD's were and my mind literally would not respond.  I had to fight for a few simple words that made me look like an idiot, in my own critical opinion of my behavior.  One of my coworkers had to answer the question for me and looked at me like I was stupid.  For the longest time, I felt guilty about not being able to answer a simple question where I knew the answer but could not communicate it.  Now, I understand that it was completely beyond my control at those brief moments.

Are there times when you have noticed yourself or your child or anyone on the spectrum seem to shutdown?

While you are thinking about that, here is a very useful video that I discovered earlier today.  It was shared by another autistic individual that I am friends with on Facebook.  It describes shutdowns quite well.  To view the video, click here.

A Note to My Readers

I hope you all have a fun and safe Independence Day.  Remember to be conscientious of those who are on the spectrum.  It doesn’t matter whether you are a parent, a sibling, someone witnessing a public meltdown, or even another individual on the spectrum who does not have the same problems.  Everyone who has autism is different.  Remember the phrase: "when you have met one person with autism, you have met one person with autism."  Everyone on the spectrum has different challenges they all face every day.  Let's try to make the world a better place for all of us!

Lakeside Anxiety

When I was a kid, one of my favorite summer activities was to take the boat out on Loon Lake and cruise around, maybe go fishing or tubing, enjoy the great outdoors.  There are many lakes in my hometown, Waterford Michigan, but the lake I went on the most was Loon Lake.  My grandparents used to own lakeside property over there, and they had a pontoon boat which we took out many times.  Sometimes, we went out on my dad's smaller boat which was better for tubing and traveling through the intersecting canals that lead to nearby lakes.

The only issue I really had with boating had to do with my anxiety.  I could not help imagining the worst.  What if the boat sank?  What if I fell out of the boat, hit my head, and no one noticed?  Okay, that seems like an extreme example but when you are in that state of mind, the anxiety is very real. It is also didn't help that I have the imagination of the inspiring fantasy novelist that I am, which made my scenarios sometimes tend on the surreal, at times.

Anxiety is a big problem for many higher functioning individuals who are on the autism spectrum, including myself.  What things might your child be anxious about?  In my case, I can find something to be anxious about in almost every situation I find myself in.  This is something that I am working on and I'm getting better.

Dazzling Fireworks...A Sensory Nightmare??

Fireworks are a traditional part of Independence Day here in American.  Apart from organized events scattered throughout the country, firecrackers, sparklers, and numerous other pyrotechnic goodies are available in retail outlets for anyone to use and enjoy.

I was born and raised in Waterford Michigan.  In this area, you cannot go for a mile without coming across a lack.  They are the direct result of glaciers that traveled across this area in another time.   Due to numerous lakes, there are a series of fireworks events leading up to and following Independence Day.  When I was younger, Fireworks really hurt my ears.  I had to cover them in order to avoid the pain.  When I was about six or seven years old, my mom had me try to fall asleep during a firework show. This was not a pleasant experience.

This was before I knew about autism and sensory processing disorders.  My advice to parents is to try to avoid fireworks shows with your autistic children or at least keep a close eye on how they react to the displays that charm so many.  If he seems distressed during the show, then it is hurting him.  Get him out of there and try to soothe the meltdown.

For whatever reason, my hearing is not as sensitive as it used to be.  Fireworks don't bother me the way they did when I was a child.  So, try to be conscientious of the sensory difficulties your child might have during a firework display, but other than that, try to enjoy the show!A

Summer Time Means More Time For...

For many kids, summer time means more time to do the things that they love.  For high functioning autistic children and teens, this means more time to pursue their obsession.  World famous autism advocate Temple Grandin believes that childhood obsessions have a high likelihood of turning into careers.  My advice for parents is that if, for example, your high functioning autistic child would rather look at rocks through a magnifying glass than play outside with NT children, don't try to force him to do something he or she does not want to do.  Encourage this interest in any way possible.  Who knows, he might be a geologist.  Just some food for thought.

Safe Summer Fun

Summer is in full swing now and the temperatures are rising to eighty, ninety, and even one hundred degrees Fahrenheit.  In these warm temperatures, many of us prefer to perform a lot of fun activities outdoors.  These warm temperatures also bring a certain danger: dehydration.  While having fun outdoors, is very important to drink enough water.  Individuals on the spectrum, particularly those who are nonverbal, might not be able to communicate effectively that they are starting to feel bad.  My message to parents is to make sure your children are drinking enough water.  Most especially, I advise that you observe your autistic children to identify the signs of dehydration or worse issues, if necessary.  I hope you all have a fun and safe summer and make sure that you stay safe and drink enough water. 

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 06/25 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  During this broadcast, host I will interview Dr. Janet Graetz, Associate Professor at Oakland University and recognized autism expert.  During this interview, I will talk with Jan about some of the work she has done with autistic individuals as well as suggestions she has to raise autism awareness.

You can contribute to the discussion too!  Just call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can call in through Skype.  Tune into what will surely be another great and insightful broadcast!

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Happy Father's Day!

I just wanted to take a moment to wish all the fathers out there a happy father's day!  My dad is not the type of person to sugarcoat what he has to say.  He has been called abrupt and isn't bothered by it at all. He is better with cars than I will probably ever be.  When I was younger, my dad sacrificed a lot in order to get a college degree so that he could continue to give my brother and me the best life possible.  While he is not always the most patient person in the world, he still talks about all the things he should have said to a teacher who gave up on me when I was having my difficulties.  Right now, I have an arrangement with him to leave college without any debt, which will give me a huge advantage over other college students who are entering the workforce.  This is the best gift I could ever hope to receive as a graduation gift later this year.  While he is not perfect, I could not ask for a better dad!  Happy father's day to my dad and all the other dads out there!

Is Honesty Enough?

While there are many difficulties associated with autism, there is one trait that can distinguish many individuals who are on the autism spectrum.  We are the ones who can be counted on to tell the absolute truth.  It is a trait that is embedded in our nature.  This trait can make it difficult to understand irony and sarcasm: although I can understand some instances of sarcasm and use it myself, I can still be thrown off by a sarcastic statement spoken in a normal tone of voice.  Anyway, we who are on the spectrum instinctively tell the truth.  Honesty is a widely undervalued virtue in today's society.  Would you rather have a friend who tells you the absolute truth all the time or one who tells you what they think you want to hear?

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 06/18 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Join me for the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  Coming on the broadcast once again is Frank Allen.  Frank is an artist from the UK who is on the autism spectrum.  I will be interviewing Frank about his artwork and speaking of autism from both of our perspectives.

You can too by calling into the show.  Just dial (619) 393-2848 or call in through Skype. Tune into the show on Monday, June 18th at 1 pm EST, 10 PST, and 6 pm UK time.   This broadcast is sponsored by Positively Autistic from the UK.  

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During this broadcast, writer and autism advocate I will talk about some strategies that he uses to stay focused on what needs to be done in my life.  One characteristic of an ASD disorder is difficulty with clear thought, so it is an important topic to discuss.

The show will air at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.

 Remember that you can call into the broadcast to share your feedback by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can call in through Skype.

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Settle Down with Change

Parents of autistic children know that their children have difficulty coping with change.  One aspect of coping with change that I have observed in my own life is something that I will call settling.  This is a term I came up with earlier that describes when I begin to accept that a change in my life is inevitable and I start searching for a new routine.  This is basically framework that I can begin to find some order in my thoughts and feelings while coping with change.  It can be a certain activity I perform at a new position at work in a certain order or it can be a certain place I might place my things while staying in a hotel room.  Sometimes, a small change can make me feel lost and uncertain.  Settling or finding new routine or familiarity can help me to adjust better, otherwise change is much more difficult to bear and that feeling of uncertainty becomes increasingly agitating.  Since I have high functioning autism, it will, of course, be very different for those with different forms of ASD.

Have any of you noticed your child settling after a change?  Comment and share your experiences.

Cartoon Completed!

Near the end of April, my friend and fellow autism advocate, Dani Bowman, asked me to write a script for a cartoon she was working on. Dani is the CCO of Powerlight Studios, a company that Dani, who is on the autism spectrum, started with the help of her aunt and uncle when she was eleven years old.  Now seventeen, Dani is now striving to make a difference in the lives of those impacted by autism spectrum disorders.  I am glad to say that everyone who contributed their talents for this cartoon, including myself, have some form of an autism spectrum disorder.  The purpose of this cartoon was to try to interest kids in science as well as introducing the guest speakers at the world science fair, which will take place later this month.  To view the cartoon, click here.

An Inspirational Song

In this blog post, I'm going to take a moment to share a YouTube video that highlights not only the autistic journey but humanity's journey.  I hope you enjoy this song as much as I do.  "We must stand together."

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 06/04 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Join me for the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  With the start of summer drawing near, I will be talking about some summer activities and pastimes that someone on the spectrum might do to fill in the passing time without school.  Of course, traveling and participating in family activities is encourages, but maybe this summer is the right time to start pursuing a new interest or work on striving to become more social, in the case of those with high function autism.  The possibilities are endless.

Remember, as always your input is strongly valued and encouraged.  You can call into the broadcast by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can call in through Skype.  Tune into this can't-be-missed broadcast that aids the quest of raising positive autism awareness!

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The Sandy Side of Things

A popular pastime during the summer is to go to the beach, to lie out in the sun, maybe splash around in the water.  That is something that is viewed as enjoyable and relaxing by so many, but what do people on the spectrum think about going to the beach?  In my case, I don't find going to the beach very enjoyable, not the way I viewed it as a kid.  Growing up, I liked to play in the surf and pretend that the soft sand right on the waterline was quicksand, and that my toys were in peril.  I also liked to throw piles of mud at toy boats to try to get them to sink.  

Now that I'm twenty four, going to the beach is not as enjoyable.  The sand is always to hot, the sun is too bright, and I'm not the kind of person who enjoys horsing around in the water.  I might play Frisbee-catch with my younger brother or sit on the beach with a book, but nothing more than that.  It has probably been a year and a half since I last went to the beach, when I was camping August 2010 with my family.  

Of course, others on the spectrum might view the beach experience differently than me.  This account is just one of the many accounts made by individuals on the spectrum.  What are your thoughts about the beach experience?

Play the Flying Colors

When I was in high school, I played the clarinet in the school marching band.  Every year, we donned our uniforms, memorized a patriotic song, and then marched down the main street in my town. We recognized the freedom we celebrate today is the result of the sacrifices made by so many.  On alternating years, the two high schools in my town swapped cemetery duty, where we played the Star Spangled Banner in the grave yard and one of our trumpet players played taps.  My autism made it easier for me to memorize music than it was for my NT classmates.  All I had to do was to hear the music played about a dozen times, and then it was memorized in my head.  Of course, I tended to play first part rather than second part, even when I was an underclassman, as first part stands out more.  Music is one of my creative ventures that allow me to fully explore my abilities.  That same ability was used to watch memorized movies in my head when I was younger.  Just remember, among all the difficulties that are associated with autism, that autism has pros and cons...Just like everything else.

No Draft for Me

In light of Memorial Day, while casting my mind around to find a topic for this blog post, I find myself thinking about the draft.  In the United States, the draft is something that males have to sign up for when we turn eighteen.  In the event of war, a draft is issued and young men are required to participate in training to serve the United States.  I have a lot of respect for the military, I have family in the military, but I have no intention of joining myself.  Even if there was a draft, I don't think they would want me because I depend on my medicine for coherent thoughts and concentration as well as reducing my anxiety in the evening for sleep.  Also, I don't think any amount of basic training would keep me from succumbing to a sensory overload and freezing in a combat situation.  I have a lot of respect for veterans and I thank all veterans for the sacrifices they have made so that we can all maintain our freedom.

Holiday Sensory Overload

With summer just around the corner and Memorial Day festivities at hand, it is important to remember the sensory issues for those affected by ASD disorders.  Holiday parades can be loud and over stimulating for someone on the autism spectrum to cope with sensory overload.  While it is important to include ASD individuals in holiday fun, it might be a good idea to take the ASD individual somewhere where it is quiet or where they can be alone so they can better manage the multitude of sensations that accompany BBQs or holiday parades.  Beaches and parks can be over stimulating for ASD individuals as well.  Sensory overload could be caused by the most unlikely stimuli.  For example, I stock shelves and fold clothes at a local supermarket.  I have noticed that I feel a little queasy by just looking at a certain bright, black and white striped shirt.  It just hurts my eyes to look at it.  It produces a feeling that I can't quite put into words but I can describe in feelings, such as a queasy feeling in my stomach and my vision kind of swims before my eyes.  One thing is certain; I would never buy that shirt!

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 05/21 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Join me for my next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  Joining me on this broadcast is autistic artist, Frank Louis Allen, as he discusses his experiences with autism and art.  Frank faces an enormous barrier that may hinder his ability to continue doing what he loves most.  Tune into the show to find out more.

The show will air at the regular time: 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  Tune into what will surely be another great broadcast.

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THE POETS INTEREST WITH MARILYN AND RYAN 05/23 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Check out my next broadcast of "The Poet's Interest: With Marilyn and Ryan."  I am the co-host of this show teaming up with poet Marilyn Francis with me as the host of this weekly online radio program.   We will have two very special guests this broadcast:  Linda Lake, who runs a Breaking Free/Therapeutic Riding Center for those who are disabled; and we are also going to hear from a previous guest on our show, Laura Mae Bates, for an update of the annual Hopalong Cassidy Festival.

Here is a message from Marilyn Francis:

“Join us and learn how Autistic Children respond to the therapeutic ridding program and ask any questions you may have. And of course you can read your poetry and hear some great poets that may stop by.”

The show airs at 6 pm EST, 3 pm PST, and 11 pm UK time.  Stop by and join us for will surely be another great broadcast.

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A Year of Reflection

It has been nearly a year since I first started writing The Voice from the Spectrum.  In this blog post, I wanted to take a little bit of time to reflect on what has been an amazing journey that has lead to so many different opportunities for me.  Also, I think it's safe to say that I learned a thing or two about myself writing to raise autism awareness.

Beginning to write about autism awareness through this blog was a big step for me.  It was not without hesitation that I begun to write about my autism to an audience that was undefined.  At that time, I didn't know who would want to read what I had to say.  The nervousness that accompanies anticipation was present: what if no one found what I had to say interesting or helpful?  Such is the nature of new experiences.  I'm glad to say that I could not have been more wrong.

My writing about autism has made a difference.  Regular readers of this blog will surely agree.  I try to make it as personal as possible because that is what I have to share: a first person account of what it is like to live on the autism spectrum.  Sharing my words have lead to an additional blog, OUCARES-Did you Know..., two weekly blog talk radio shows which air online; and a recent speaking engagement at a symposium about autism and employment.

Looking ahead to the future, I know that I would like to write a book about autism; I just don't know what direction I would like to take yet.  In the meantime, I am concentrating my effort on my fantasy series, about a young heroine who has to come to terms with a whole new world and face far greater challenges than she had ever imagined.  I don't want to give away too much here.  All I can really say is progress has been steady.  I will continue to write to raise autism awareness as a blogger and continue with my online radio programs.

In my life, I would like to accomplish two things: first of all, I would like to leave behind a world that is does not necessarily understand autism better but is more accepting of autism.  I would also like to create a truly great piece of fiction that will become my legacy and live on far longer than me.

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 05/14 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk on Monday, May 14th 2012.  During this broadcast, I will interview Frank Louis Allen, an artist who is on the autism spectrum who is from the UK.  Frank is a very talented artist who has made the most of the creativity associated with his ASD disorder.  This show will air at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  Remember, you can call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can call in through Skype to give any feedback you might have or to ask Frank any questions you might have.  Tune into what will surely be another insightful and inspirational broadcast!

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 05/14 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Happy Mother's Day!

I wanted to wish all the mothers out there a happy mother's day.  For autistic children, their mother is often the most important person in their life.  I want all the mom's who read this blog to recognize that you are all appreciated for the hard work and sacrifices you make for your children.  A really special thank you to my mom who has worked hard to help me to overcome many of my past challenges.  Thank you mom!  I would not be the same person without you!

Strong points by Temple Grandin

The increased autism rates announced in early April have stirred the autistic community, prompting a heated debate that searches for the cause of this phenomenon.  Through Facebook, I found an online article written about Temple Grandin's response to this recent event.  Temple is arguably the most recognizable autistic individual on the planet today.  She was concerned about the increase of severely autistic individuals but stressed that autism diagnosis is not very precise.  What really stood out to me in this article is that Temple stated that there are negative reactions to "too much" autism awareness.  She argued that a childhood obsession held by children on the spectrum could be very useful later in life when it comes time to find a job. If autistic children face too much autism awareness exposure, then their interest could be directed towards the autism itself.  Temple argues that she would rather have the kids "fixate" on something that could be useful as a career later in life.  I have to admit that I never thought of that before and will strive harder to balance my writing projects between my fiction and writing to raise autism awareness.  To read the article referenced in this blog post, click here.

"Is autism just another Identity" Response

Recently, someone shared an article, written by Sandy Starr, about the autism spectrum that touches on a controversial aspect of autism: is an ASD diagnosis a disorder or strength?  After reading some of this thought provoking article, I have to admit that I felt threatened by some of the ideas in there.  Most of all, I felt threatened that the author, who was diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome, still thought of autism as a disorder and questioned the validity of his own autism diagnosis.  After taking some time to reflect on the words, I was able to overcome the emotional defensive response and look at the content more objectively.

Perhaps my initial response in is light of the time and effort I have put forth in the past year to raise autism awareness by sharing my own story.  That decision alone to come out and share my autistic journey is motivated, on my part, by two reasons:  first of all, I want to help others to understand autism, something that had been suggested to me repeatedly ever since I first started writing at age sixteen; secondly, I hope by raising autism awareness, I would initiate my own presence as a writer and begin to build a writing platform that I could use to launch my published fiction and nonfiction work in the future.  By raising autism awareness, I am finding that I am rather possessive of my autism diagnosis.  I have come to view autism as a large part of my identity.

Looking at the article more objectively, I was able to identify something that I had been semi-consciously aware: that I have all but completed a shift in the way I view my ASD diagnosis: previously, when I had less understanding of autism, I was more prone to view autism as a disorder.  That was perhaps the result of my low self esteem when I entered my teenage years or the fact that I had so many difficulties growing up and I needed to blame it on something other than myself.  After sixth and seventh grade, I was more than ready to accept that my behavior was not entirely my own fault.  Although I still needed time to recover and grow further.  Most recently, ever since I have started to raise autism awareness through blogging and eventually Blog Talk Radio, I have come to view autism as an identity rather than a disorder.  This explains why I was threatened by the writer of this article, who stated otherwise.  

Another practical example of this shift lies in the way I treated my ASD disorder when I was in high school.  After coming out of my difficult middle school years, I had many friends that, for the first time in my life, praised me and accepted me for who I was.  They had no idea of the difficulties that I had dealt with during the previous years.  Therefore, I found myself in the position where I could hide my autism from my classmates for two reasons: the first reason is that my PDD-NOS diagnosis is a very high functioning form of autism to begin with; and two, I am such a quiet person that it was really no problem for me to conceal my black and white perspective and my social anxiety, for the most part.  The fact of the matter was I still viewed my autism as a disorder at that time which was not helped by my own lack of understanding of the autism spectrum at that time.  I was being accepted by my classmates for who I was and had no desire to reveal my ASD disorder condition to them, out of fear of rejection.  I don't know for sure whether I would have been rejected.  I am certainly receiving a lot of support from those friends and a few new friends as well in light of my efforts to raise autism awareness.

To read the article discussed in this blog post, click here.

Useful Autism Resource

Attention parents of autistic children!  Here is a great resource that was recently brought to my attention: The Dan Marino Foundation.  Located in Ft. Lauderdale Florida, the Dan Marino Foundation has provided support programs to improve the lives of ASD individuals for the past twenty years.  Among the services provided is the "Vocational Campus," which is designed specifically to help ASD individuals develop the job skills desperately needed to compete in today's workforce.

For more information, click here.

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 05/07 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into my next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk on Blog Talk Radio.  This broadcast will air at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  During this broadcast, I will continue striving to raise positive autism awareness.  

We also might hear from Colin Brennan, a nine year old singer who is on the autism spectrum, as he talks about a recent accomplishment.  Just this past weekend, Colin won a singing competition in Toronto, Ontario.  It will surely be a very exciting show!

You can participate in the action too!  Just dial (619) 393-2848 to call into the show or you can also call in through Skype!  Make sure to tune into what will surely be another outstanding broadcast!

Always remember that under the right conditions with the aid of a strong support group, individuals on the autism spectrum can literally change the world.

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 05/07 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Animation Opportunity

I wanted to inform my readers that I recently received an outstanding opportunity.  My friend, Dani Bowman, a seventeen year old autistic girl who owns an animation company asked me on Tuesday if I was interested in writing a script for a cartoon that she is working on.  I accepted, and that work in currently in progress.  

Some background information: Dani Bowman is the CCO of Powerlight Studios, a small animation company she began when she was eleven.  A few days ago, Dani was asked to submit a cartoon to introduce four guest speakers at the World Science Festival.  This is a great opportunity for both Dani and I, as individuals on the autism spectrum, to combine our creative talents to produce a creative work of art.  In the future, I hope we receive further opportunities to work together.  

My Take on Teacher Outrage

This video recently came to light on the news.  You might have already heard of the story of a father who discovered that his ten year old autistic son was bullied by his teachers.  This kind of behavior by the people who are paid to help individuals on the spectrum to better understand the world around them is despicable and completely unacceptable.  In my own personal experience, I have never been bullied by an instructor, although I have had teachers in the past who have failed to understand me.  One instructor failed to inform my parents that my grades were slipping, assuming that my parents did not care.  My dad still talks about the things he would have liked to say to that teacher.

To read the story in further detail, click here.

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 04/30 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk next Monday, April 30th.  The show will air at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  During this broadcast, I will discuss the important topic of autism and driving.  For teenagers, receiving a driver's license signifies their independence.  No longer will they have to rely on other's for rides.  For teenagers with autism, it's a lot more complicated.  I will share my own experience as a driver who has autism and I invite you to do so as well.  You can call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can call in through Skype.

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 04/30 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 04/23 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into my next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  During this show, I will speak more about my experiences as a successful individual living on the spectrum.  I will also share some more of my writing over the air.  Above all, I will continue to raise positive autism awareness to inspire others to see hope in autism.

You can too by calling into the show to share your own experiences with the spectrum.  Call in by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you call in through Skype.

The show will air Monday, April 16th at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  Tune into what will surely be another great broadcast!

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 04/23 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Another Useful Blog

In this blog post, I wanted to share a link for another useful blog that I discovered while scrolling through Facebook earlier today.  There is also a useful chat incorporated with this blog.  Although it is primarily centered around Aspergers Syndrome, it has very useful tips.  In particular, I liked the post about autism and anxiety, which is something that I have struggled with for a long time.

To read this blog, click on the following link:

http://www.babble.com/baby/baby-development/top-autism-blog-nominate/index.aspx

Vote for The Voice from the Spectrum!!

If you feel that my experience and insights shared on The Voice from the Spectrum have helped you to better understand the the autism spectrum, vote for my blog in this Top 30 Autism Spectrum Blog contest! Click on the following link to place your vote for The Voice from the Spectrum!

http://www.babble.com/baby/baby-development/top-autism-blog-nominate/index.aspx

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 04/16 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into my next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  During this show, I will speak more about my experiences as a successful individual living on the spectrum.  I will also share some more of my writing over the air.  Above all, I will continue to raise positive autism awareness to inspire others to see hope in autism.

You can too by calling into the show to share your own experiences with the spectrum.  Call in by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you call in through Skype.

The show will air Monday, April 16th at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  Tune into what will surely be another great broadcast!

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 04/16 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Some People Think...

Some people think that I'm just shy.  They don't really see the whole picture.  They have no way of seeing the who picture so they shouldn't be expected to see more than is on the surface.  What people perceive as "shy" characteristics of my personality are actually the current end result of my autistic journey.  What was previously autistic characteristics mixed within the mind of a troubled boy are now a young many, almost 24, who is striving for greatness.  I want to help others to better understand autism and I also want to become a famous fantasy writer, recognized for more than my autism.  That is who I have become.  My autistic journey continues.

Hopefully my autistic journey will conclude in a different world.  A wiser and more accepting world.  A world where everyone understands autism and no one has to go through the pain that is associated with living on the spectrum today.  That is the world I hope for by the time my life is all said and done.  I'm going to be 24 in a few weeks.  I've probably got at least 50 years more to look forward to.  A lot can happen in that time.

A Shared Mesage

In this blog post, I wanted to take a moment to share a message that has been circulating around Facebook. Many of my readers do not have Facebook so I wanted to share this for their benefit. This message really speaks a great deal about what it means to be autistic.  A note, I did not write this poem and strongly admire the person that did.  It is my hope that you find this as insightful as I do:

"I am the child that looks healthy and fine.
I was born with ten fingers and toes.
But something is different, somewhere in my mind,
And what it is, nobody knows.
I am the child that struggles in school,
Though they say that I'm perfectly smart.
They tell me I'm lazy - can learn if I try ...
But I don't seem to know where to start.
I am the child that won't wear the clothes
which hurt me or bother my feet.
I dread sudden noises, can't handle most smells, and tastes - there are few foods I'll eat.
I am the child that can't catch the ball
And runs with an awkward gait.
I am the one chosen last on the team
And I cringe as I stand there and wait.
I am the child with whom no one will play ..
The one that gets bullied and teased
I try to fit in and I want to be liked,
But nothing I do seems to please.
I am the child that tantrums and freaks
Over things that seem petty and trite.
You'll never know how I panic inside,
When I'm lost in my anger and fright.
I am the child that fidgets and squirms
Though I'm told to sit still and be good.
Do you think that I choose to be out of control?
Don't you know that I would if I could?
I am the child with the broken heart
Though I act like I don't really care.
Perhaps there's a reason I'm made this way --
Some message I'm sent to share.
For I am the child that needs to be loved
And accepted and valued too.
I am the child that is misunderstood.
I am different - but look just like you."

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 04/09 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Check out the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  Tune in tomorrow at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  During this show, I will read some examples of my fiction while encouraging parents and caregivers to make the most of their ASD child's creative abilities.  I strongly believe that under the right conditions, someone on the autism spectrum can literally change the world.  Remember that you can call into the show to give your thoughts and feedback over the air.  You can do so by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can call in through Skype.  I'm looking forward to what will surely be another great show!

Junior Positively Autistic Ryans Spectrum Talk 04/09 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

It's What is on the Inside that Counts

This past week, I started hosting a new blog radio program for the organization Positively Autistic.  The name of this new show is "The Poet's Interest: By Marilyn and Ryan."  While this show is, in part, about poetry, it also strongly pertains to the autism spectrum.  I work as the co-host, while poet Marilyn Ann Francis is the host of this program.  Marilyn has a child who shows autistic characteristics.  This program was the re-launch of a show previously aired by Positively Autistic called "Joe and Marilyn's Poetry Hour."

During this broadcast, we had a handful of people call into the show to give their input about the autism spectrum over the air.  They were mainly parents of autistic children.  One man called into the show and gave an account of some of his son's autistic characteristics.  While on the air, the man's son began to have a meltdown.  Over the air, we received a blow-by-blow look into some of the difficulties associated with the autism spectrum.  The many eventually had to get off the line to gain control over the situation.

I knew right away that I wanted to turn some of the worst aspects of autistic behavior into something positive.  Although I didn't know how I would pull that off, I knew that I was going to try.  I made a point of saying that, although many aspects of the spectrum are not pleasant to behold, appearances are not an accurate way to gauge who people on the spectrum are.  We are diamonds in the rough, coated initially with a layer of grit.  When the dirt which is unpleasant to behold is cleaned away, what could easily be dismissed as a dirty stone was really a diamond on the inside.  

This is how I think individuals on the autism spectrum should be viewed.  It is not on the outside, but on the inside that counts.  People on the spectrum are like diamonds under the right condition, but only if they are given the opportunity to shine.   Just for the record, I believe the father who called in is doing an excellent job for his son.

To listen to the radio show referenced in this blog post, click on the following link:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/positivelyautistic/2012/04/04/the-poets-interest-by-marilyn-and-ryan

A Useful I-Phone App

This was recently brought to my attention.  There is an I-phone application currently available that may be invaluable to parents and caregivers of autistic children.  Called "Autism Track," allows caregivers to record, track, and correlate autistic behavior through this app.  When used properly, a caregiver would be able to determine what causes meltdowns and how to prevent them.  Above all, this device would allow parents and caregivers to create the right conditions under which an individual on the autism spectrum can recognize the unique gifts associated with living with autism.

For more information, visit the following website:

http://itunes.apple.com/us/app/autismtrack/id391660393?mt=8