College Sorority Holds Autism Awareness Events

A sorority at Texas Christian University recently held an event to raise autism awareness.   Students in Kappa Lambda Delta hosted a "five senses event," to educate students about the sensations that someone on the autism spectrum might experience and what it might feel like to be autistic.  For example, students would have to put on loud headphones and try to hold a conversation.  I can't speak for everyone on the spectrum, but I think this is an excellent way to inform people about the how sensory processing disorder can affect individuals on the autism spectrum.

Click on the following link for more information: http://www.tcu360.com/campus/2012/09/15885.sorority-tries-raise-autism-awareness-experimental-events

FYI: No Show This Monday

Due to my busy schedule that I have ahead of me next week, there will be no broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk for Monday, October 1st.  I have exams to prepare for early next week so I need all the study time that I can get.  The next broadcast will be Monday, October 8th at 4 pm EST, 1 pm PST, and 9 pm UK time.

The NT Way...

There are many phrases that can be used to describe autism.  For example: autism is not a system malfunction, it is a different operating system.  This describes ASD disorders far better than the following phrase: those on the spectrum lack empathy.  While researching a connection between autism spectrum disorders and the highly sensitive person, I stumbled across this site.  It was written by a highly sensitive person who recently helped a number of high functioning autistic college students, who are not unlike me.  I definitely recommend reading it.

The article cited here is called "Epaths on the Autism Spectrum." The writer of that article states her observations about these students and how they compare to those who are NT (neurotypical, those who do not have autism).  She went into this assignment not knowing much about the autism spectrum.  Those autism resources that she referred to for help stated that those on the autism spectrum lack social empathy.  This writer came to the conclusion that this was not the case at all.  She stated that those on the spectrum possess of "hypersensitive" empathy; something that those who are NT have no access to.  She further stated that it's NT individuals who are the ones without social empathy.  I agree with this whole-heartedly.

I am in my last semester of college.  One of my two classes this semester is business law.  I'm learning how to draft briefs for cases and the process of litigation and an overview of the United States court system.  Today, we talked about ethics in class.  The professor brought forward some difficult ethical dilemmas to consider.  They were difficult for me to swallow because of my hypersensitive responses to the ethical dilemmas.  While listening to the discussion about what my classmates would do in these situations, I shifted uncomfortably in my seat. I knew that I had to account for my sensory overload and hypersensitivity to emotions. Since my emotional responses to conflict and stress are about 100 times stronger than for most people, the situation that called for an ethical response would be over before my mind could fully process the situation.  I wondered if that made me unethical if I could not act and also if any precedent in the United States court system accounted for sensory overload and hypersensitivity to emotions.

Also, I cannot help thinking that if everyone had "abnormal" autistic behaviors, there would be no need for the legal system.  Those on the spectrum are inherently honest.  I would be lying if I said I was always honest, but in a difficult situation I tell the truth or I don't say anything at all.  In other words, I return to my true nature.  The writer in the article above stated that those NT individuals lack social empathy.  Some people who are NT are convinced that their way is right and the ASD way is wrong.  Is honesty really such an undervalued virtue?  Or is the majority, once again, forcing their beliefs upon a minority? In this case: those who are NT versus those on the spectrum.  We only have to look back at American history to see this trait at work again and again.  If it is human nature to base all others off of what we ourselves experience, taking into account American history and the ethicality of the U.S. legal system, is the NT way really better than the ASD way?

A Note for my Readers

Hi everyone, Ryan here.  I just wanted to announce to everyone that September 2012 has been the most successful month yet for The Voice from the Spectrum.  This blog passed 900 page views for this month just a few minutes ago.  I'm grateful to know that I have made a difference in your lives through my words and experiences.  There is still a week left of September so I am hoping to surpass 1000 page views before the end of this month.  Thanks again!

FYI: Autism Awareness Event in Metro Detroit

Here is an FYI for an autism awareness event in the Metro Detroit area.  The Oakland University Center for Autism Research, Education, and Support is hosting "Autism Safety Management for Families."  This event will take place October 3rd from 5:30-8:30 pm in the Lake Michigan room on campus at the Oakland University Oakland Center.  Presenters for this event are Sgt. Scott Schuelke (Ret.) of the Lansing Police Department and Staci Rulison, a parent and member of the Autism Alliance of Michigan.  Through their combined experience, the two speakers will discuss: safety at home, on campus, and when traveling; developing and autism emergency plan; wandering; reducing victimization; 911 database alerts; sharing de-escalation techniques; and developing partnerships with law enforcement and first response agencies.  If you are in the Metro Detroit area and are able to attend, please RSVP by emailing oucares@oakland.edu.  Remember, space is limited so RSVP soon.  Hope you are able to attend what will surely be a practical, informational event.

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Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  This show will air on Monday, September 24th at 4 pm EST, 1 pm EST, and 9 pm UK time.

The topic of this week's broadcast is the independence of higher functioning autistic individuals.  Many young adults dream of a time they have a place of their own and freedom from their parents. For higher functioning autistic individuals, this can be difficult ranging to impossible.  After I get my degree at the end of this year, I will start looking to get a place of my own.  I even have a friend who I am considering as a roommate.  Tune into the broadcast to find out more.

Remember, you can participate in the chat room by creating an account on Blog Talk Radio.  It's free and takes less than a minute.  This way, you can join in a live chat with me and any other members of the positively autistic staff who happen to drop in.  If you feel up to it, you can also participate directly in the show itself by calling (619) 393-2848 or by clicking the Skype icon which will appear after the start of the broadcast to call in on Skype.  

Hope you can make it.  Tune into what will surely be another insightful and inspirational broadcast!

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Employers Gaining Awareness

Employer autism awareness is rising.  More companies are realizing the benefits of hiring high functioning autistic individuals.  Apart from our dedication to what is interesting to us, employers also don't have to worry about excessive socialization for those with high functioning autism.

Now, you won't be able to read this entire source unless you subscribe to this newspaper, which costs a bit of money.  I didn't read the whole article, but I think it is more important to know that the autism awareness message is being heard by employers.  To read my source, click here: http://www.bizjournals.com/columbus/print-edition/2012/09/14/awareness-growing-for-benefits-those.html

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 09/17 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.   During this show,  I will talk about my upcoming graduation as well as a great career opportunity I have received while reflecting on my college life.  

This show will air Monday, September 17th at 4 pm EST, 1 pm PST, and 9 pm UK time.

Remember that you can participate in the chat room to share any feedback you might have.  You can also call into the show to ask any questions you might have by calling (619) 393-2848.  Or, if you prefer you may call in through Skype by clicking on the icon over the show screen after the broadcast starts.  Tune into what will surely be another great broadcast.

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How Sensory Overload Feels to Me

My job at the grocery story was particularly challenging this past Sunday.  The workday started out alright enough; I was talkative and even joked around with friends and coworkers.  However, as the day went on, I began to have sensory issues, even though I did not recognize them for what they were at first.  Over my lifetime, I have tried to find reasons for the sensations that accompanied sensory overload.  I've tried to tell people that I was just tired, I had a headache, things like that.  My most recent reasoning for sensory overload was that I was empathetic and was reading the emotions of others.  Finally, I have not only identified when I am having a sensory overload, I can also describe how it feels.  It is sort of like a hard, pressing feeling in my head that came in waves and becomes increasingly painful.  This is what it feels like for me to have a sensory overload.

Reflections on College

In this blog post, I wanted to reflect on the past six years that I have attended college.  When I was eighteen during my freshman year of college, I didn't understand what it meant to have autism.  I tried to explain to a friend that people with autism didn't have emotions, which could not be farther from the truth.  Lucky that friend refused to believe it.  She was the first of many people that told me to start writing about autism.

Fast forward two years to 2008.  This was the year that I transferred from a community college to a much larger university.  My first semester, I was involved in a peer transition program designed for college students with autism.  I worked with a mentor during that semester to adjust to university life.  I was a commuter student, meaning I drove myself to class from my parents' home.  This peer transition program helped me in some small ways.  It gave me a familiar face on campus when I really didn't know anyone.  However, I ended up leaving this program in January 2009. I was a transfer student who had already attended college for two years and just needed a little help getting adjusted to the university.

Fast forward again to January 2011.  This was when I was hired by The Oakland Press as an intern reporter.  I wrote about twenty news stories that were published in the paper.  It was suggested again during this time that I share my insights into autism.  When I ended the internship in April 2011, I received an offer to continue writing for the paper as a community blogger.  I thought about what I could write, realizing this was my big chance to let the world know about autism awareness as I see it.  So, I ended up starting The Voice from the Spectrum in May 2011.

In November 2011, I was first introduced to Blog Talk Radio when I was interviewed about my autism story.  By that time, I was building quite a reputation on Facebook and The Voice from the Spectrum was becoming quite a success.  I was nervous on my show and very self critical, but everyone who listened said that I did very well.  Throughout the next few months, I started to become acquainted with the United Kingdom charity, Positively Autistic.  In February 2012, I first started hosting Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  This was a big step for me, since I considered public speaking to be my greatest weakness.  Not only have I excelled with that show, but it has improved my public speaking skills in other areas of my life.

In April of 2012, I started co-hosting the Poet's Interest: with Marilyn and Ryan.  At present, I am 3 months away from graduating from college.  It took me six and a half years, but I never failed a class. Always went full time except my last few semesters.  As long as I get the degree, what does it matter if I took 6.5 years to get it?  Not only do I have a degree but I also have a budding writing career and a handful of paid publications under my belt.  The future awaits.

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Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  Starting this broadcast and continuing through December, this show will air every Monday at 4 pm EST, 1 pm PST, and 9 pm UK time.

During this broadcast, host I will talk about the start of school, while reflection on transitions that I have experienced in school.

Remember, you can participate in the chat room with any feedback you might have.  You can also call into the program to share your opinions and any experiences you might have by dialing (619) 393-2848 or by calling in through Skype.  Mark your callenders and make sure you tune into what will surely be another inspirational and insightful broadcast.

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Eagle Scout Hands One to Autism

When I was younger I participated in Boy Scouts of America.  From the time I was eleven to when I was seventeen; I participated in many scouting activities such as weekend camping trips and weekly meetings.  In Boy Scouts, members of individual troops are driven to achieve Eagle Scout, the highest rank that Boy Scouts can offer.  This is a real achievement that will follow the scout through adulthood for the rest of their lives.  There are many benefits to becoming an Eagle Scout: it is something that one can put on their resume and there are also scholarships available only for Eagle Scouts.

Astronaut Jim Lovell was an Eagle Scout. So was my uncle, who is a business owner.  In my case, I just did not have the focus needed to achieve that highest rank.  I was in scouts when I was first diagnosed with autism, so there were other things going on at that time that distracted me from working to achieve Eagle Scout.  I made to the Star Rank which is stationed two ranks below Eagle.  Boy Scout ranks are as follows: Scout, Tenderfoot, Second Class, First Class, Star, Life, and Eagle.  After a scout reaches age 18, they are no longer eligible to become an Eagle Scout.

A required part of earning the Eagle Scout rank is that the scout has to organize and implement a community service project.  I participated in a handful of projects lead by other scouts when I was a teenager.  A fellow scout supervised the construction of a handicap ramp at a public building.  Another laid out a trail behind a middle school in town.  There is always a higher cause involved with an Eagle Scout project that is intended to benefit others.

James Galley from Smithtown New York recently earned his Eagle Scout Rank.  Galley worked many hours to renovate the Young Autism program playground and the entrance of the Developmental Disabilities Institute.  This act of good faith will surely benefit the lives of autistic children in years to come.  It is up to the scouts themselves to determine all the finer aspects of their project and I am glad that Galley chose to benefit children on the spectrum with his project.  For more information about Galley's Eagle Scout project, click on the following link:


http://smithtown.patch.com/articles/eagle-scout-renovates-playground-for-autistic-children

A Note to My Readers

Just a reminder: there will be no broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk this Monday in recognition of Labor Day.  Everyone have a fun and safe holiday.  Make sure to do something fun, if you can, before the school year starts up.  I will start my last semester of college this Tuesday.  In three months, I will get my Bachelor degree and then the fun really begins...Anyway, have a great weekend everyone!

Disney World Wins Autism Awareness Award

One of the great things I remember growing up were vacations to Disney World in Orlando Florida.  I've been there three times total: twice with my family and a third time with my high school band program.  I'm from southeast Michigan, so a trip to Florida during the midwinter months was always a great relief from the stark realities of snow and cold weather.  

In a marketing management course I took in college earlier this year, I studied how Disney trains its employees to look at their jobs differently.  They are trained not to feel as though they are working in the theme park industry, but rather, they are trained to feel as though they are in the entertainment industry.  This way, Disney employees can grant visitors a rich, authentic experience they can get nowhere else.  So, needless to say, a job at Disney requires exceptional acting talent.

A fond memory I have from Disney took place when I was fourteen.  At this time, I played the clarinet in my high school marching band.  During a five day school trip that involved both the band and choir programs, my classmates and I marched down main street in the Magic Kingdom playing "Conga," by Gloria Estefan.  A Latin-Rock song suited for warm weather and palm trees.

Another great thing about Disney is that they pride themselves in having top industry support for individuals with disabilities, including autism.   They recently won the Gold Autism Award on behalf of the United Kingdom Autism Foundation.  In addition to acting training, Disney employees receive extensive training to accommodate those with autism, as well as other disabilities.  A Disney executive is quoted saying the following in my source: he said "part of Disney's heritage is to have no one feel excluded."

Click on the following link to read more and to view my source: 

http://thedisneyblog.com/2012/08/31/walt-disney-world-receives-award-for-autism-awareness/

Labor Day Autism Event

Here is a great event that will take place in Royal Oak Michigan this weekend.  This year's annual Arts, Beats, and Eats festival will include Autism Family Fun Days.  This event will take place this Saturday, September 1st at little to no cost to parents.  Some activities offered include arts and crafts among other fun things to do.  This event is sponsored by Autism Alliance in association with Autism Speaks.  For more information on signing up, click here.

Survey Shows Pets Improve Social Skills

Autism can be very difficult sometimes.  Believe me; I have high functioning autism, so I know.  At the same time, I know of many things that have helped make the experience a little easier.  One of them was my cat, Tippy.  One night in August just two months before I was first diagnosed with autism, my aunt brought a kitten to our home.  A scrawny black and white tornado of energy.  His one distinctive feature was that his tail was black but the tip was white.  So we named him Tippy.

This cat really bonded with me. Even now, he is lying behind me, on the sofa, keeping watch.  When I got home today he trotted up to me, his eyes seeming to smile with unreserved joy, and he meowed at me.  He has slept in my room for the past twelve years.  When I get a place of my own sometime in the next year, my plan is to take Tippy with me.  He is twelve right now and in seemingly good health.  Hopefully he still has a number of good years left in him.

A study was recently conducted that explained how introducing a pet into the family can improve the social skills of children with autism. Quoting my source: "Researchers found that children with autism who got a pet after age 5 showed improvement in their abilities to share with others and to offer comfort, whereas those who had a pet since they were born, and those who never had a pet, showed no such improvement."

This is a topic that I have touched on before on previous posts on The Voice from the Spectrum, and I would like to take this opportunity to share another great link.  To read more, click here: http://www.foxnews.com/health/2012/08/02/new-pets-may-help-autistic-kids-socially/

If You Missed the Show...

In the film the "Bucket List," Morgan Freeman's character asks two questions:  Have you found joy in your life?  And: Has your life brought joy to others?  Today's broadcast answered both of those questions.  I found joy while on the air, being the best I could possibly be, and I made about 20 teenagers with autism very happy with my own inspirational story and their involvement with today's program.  Not only that but I got to interview a Hollywood celebrity: Joey Travolta, the older brother of John Travolta!  If you missed the show, click here to tune in on demand:

http://www.blogtalkradio.com/positivelyautistic/2012/08/20/junior-positively-autistic-ryans-spectrum-talk

Man Denied Needed Heart Transplant because of Autism

Here is a truly devastating failure by the health community to respect the differences associated with autism.  Paul Corby, a twenty three year old man, was denied a heart transplant that might save his life, apparently because of his autism.  The request to placed on the waiting list for a heart transplant was denied by a physician at the Hospital of the University of Pennsylvania.   The doctor in question wrote the following statement back to the man's mother: "'I have recommended against transplant given his psychiatric issues, autism, the complexity of the process, multiple procedures and the unknown and unpredictable effect of steroids on behavior.'" (click here to see my source).  This left the Paul's mother "devastated."

This hits me on a very personal level.  Why should a person who is on the autism spectrum be treated differently than anyone else?  Another source following this story states that more than 3000 people die while waiting for a heart transplant, and that is when they have been placed on the waiting lists.  Paul has been denied that very chance.  This second article also produces the difficult question: who can decide whether a life is not worth saving?

What are your thoughts about this story?  Feel free to leave any comments you might have below.

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During this broadcast, host I will talk about the film camp ran by Joey Travolta that is taking place this week at Oakland University in Rochester Michigan.  This hasn't been finalized yet, but I might be able to walk around and give a first person account of the film camp while seeing the different activties first hand.  Either way, it will surely be a very exciting show live from Oakland University in Rochester Michigan.

This show will air on Monday, August 20th at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.

Remember that you can participate in the chat room, and you can also call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848.  Tune into what will surely be another great show!

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Soccer Players Score One for Autism

Some soccer players in Grayslake Illinois showed some real sportsmanship in last week.  The Grayslake Central High school soccer team participated in a 5K run for autism on August 11th.  Apart from learning how to give back to the community, the soccer players were winners of the 5K in two age groups.  The team has supported the autism cause for the past four years.  Click here for more information about this event.

Autism CAN BE an Advantage!

I say all the time on Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk that we focus far too much on the disadvantages of living on the spectrum and not enough time on how autism can be an advantage.  That being said, this article was really a breath of fresh air to read, especially reading a debate arguing whether autism is a "disease."  I strongly believe that, under the right conditions, someone on the autism spectrum can literally change the world.  It's nice to hear that others agree.  To read more about this topic, click here.

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Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  This show will air at the regular time: 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  During this show, Ryan will discuss the complicated topic of what autistic identity means to him.  He will also touch on the differences of identity between higher functioning and lower functioning individuals with autism.  Remember, you can participate in the chat room posting any appropriate content you might have.  You can also call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848 or through Skype.  Tune into what will surely be another insightful and inspirational broadcast.

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Autistic Decals on Cars?

What do you think about this idea?  A man in Texas is pushing for decals to be manufactured and provided for drivers who are on the autism spectrum.  This, he says, will give police and emergency officials the information they need to make appropriate decisions based on the individual's specific needs.  For more information, click here.  I personally think that this is a good idea because, if a high functioning individual with autism is pulled over, for whatever reason, the pressure of the situation could trigger a meltdown.  This would give law enforcement officials the necessary information they need to know that their own safety is not compromised. There should also be training in place for law enforcement officials so that they know how to react to a situation such as that.  The same with fire fighters and emergency respond personnel.  These are my thoughts on this idea.  Feel free to leave your thoughts in the comment box below.

Going for the Gold at the Rebecca Olympics

While the 2012 Summer Olympics draw to a close in the United Kingdom, a school in New York City is hosting some Olympic inspired events themselves.  The Rebecca School for developmentally disabled children in Manhattan held events of their own for the children with autism who attend in celebration of the Olympic events occurring "across the pond," as the English say.

Over the past week, the Rebecca School has transformed their gym into an Olympic Stadium.  Events ranging from shot put to sprinting where held.  While the children on the spectrum might not necessarily lack the physical strength needed to participate in shot put, due to the neurological nature of autism, information processing is often the key hindering issue in such events.  For more information about this event, click here.

Meet Hannah Kandel

Here is an article about an outstanding young lady who is on the autism spectrum.  She is an aspiring artist and actress who is inspired, like so many others, by the example set by Temple Grandin.  Another credit to the sea of autism success stories that have emerged and continue to emerge into mainstream news.  To read more about Hanna Kandel's wonderful story, click here.

Cat's Make Things More Real to Me...

Some recent studies have indicated that the presence of a pet in a household with autistic children can have very beneficial results.  This is something that I could have claimed a long time ago.  There hasn't been a point in my life when there has not been a least one pet in the house.  At present, we have four cats at home.  The oldest cat, Tippy, has kind of claimed me as his human.  The feeling is mutual.

Right now as I am writing this, Tippy is laying behind me on the couch, snoozing.  He always greets me when I come home, and will meow at me in an indignant way if I'd been gone for too long.  The only negative thing I can say about him is that instead of laying on my chest sometimes, he crouches and that hurts.

Animals, particularly cats, make things more real for me. Recently, I read a book with a sad ending but I did not feel a strong emotional response until a cat that had been present in the story showed remorse for the events that transpired in that story.  Then, I was overwhelmed with sadness and had to hide in my room because I didn't want my family to see me crying.  Cats make things real for me.  They bring a level of understanding to situations that I just don't get any other way.  So, I can validate this study firsthand.

To read more about this topic, click here.

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 08/06 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk. This broadcast will feature special guest, Brent Anderson and his mother Linda Anderson as they talk about the book they have written together called "Uninte

ntional Humor." Those on the autism spectrum may not understand common phrases that we all throw around so carelessly. Such as, "it's raining cats and dogs," or "he has a frog in his throat." Unintentional Humor describes how Brent, who is on the autism spectrum, literally views these phrases and more. The show will air at the regular time at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time. As always, you can participate in the chat room and offer any appropriate content you might have. Also, if you would like to call into the show to share feedback or ask questions, you can do so by dialing (619) 393-2848 or by calling in through Skype. Tune into what will surely be another great broadcast!

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Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 07/30 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Join me for the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk on Blog Talk Radio.  During this broadcast, I will discuss that fantasy series that I have been working on for the past six years and some of the work and challenges I have faced to reach the point where I am at today in the process.  


This show will air on Monday, July 30th at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  


Remember that you can post any appropriate feedback you have in the chat room.  You can also call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848 to ask me any relevant questions that you might have.  Click on the following link to tune into the broadcast:

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INFP/Autism Dating Curse

Building from the topic I started my last blog post, the INFP personality type is an uncommon type.  Only about four percent of the population has this personality type compared to the fifteen other types on the Myers-Briggs scale.  Even more interesting, the INFP type is more frequently found in women than men.

Therefore, since I am a male INFP, I have found myself subjected to gender stereotypes all throughout my life.  The American society expects men to be, for a lack of a better word, manly.  That is, men are expected to be decisive and assertive problem solvers.  In my case, I would much rather allow a conflict to happen passively than try to take action and do something about it and expose myself to more emotional pain than I would feel by doing nothing..  This is not something I do whole-heartedly; I am often at inner conflict about this aspect of myself.  

It also makes it very difficult to date.  I haven't had an official girlfriend in about five years.  It's been more than four years since I've even been on a date.  Both INFP and autistic individuals find dating to be very intimidating, the combined total has made my dating life miserable to experience and nostalgic to look back on.  Summoning the resolve to ask out a girl, who might say no, stretches my anxiety to the limit. This is not helped by the fact that in this society, men are expected to ask women out and not the other way around.  Much to my disadvantage.

To sum it all up, being a male INFP with autism in the world of dating makes me feel like a hairless cat being entered into a competitive dog show.  It is not easy by any means.  It's reached the point where it's more trouble than it's worth for me to force myself to approach girls.  I'm just living my life with the belief that the right woman will walk into my life and make the first move.  Other than that, I will continue to write my fantasy series without the fear of a family complicating my dream of becoming the next great writer.  It doesn't mean that I don't want a family, but it's sort of become a way for me to justify, both to others and to myself, exactly why I have such a hard time dating.

INFP and Autism: An Introduction

During this next series of posts on The Voice from the Spectrum, I am going to expand on a topic that has been of great interest to my lately.  A few years ago, I identified myself as an INFP personality type, identified using the "Myers-Briggs" scale (information found at this website).  This personality type is referred to by different resources as an Idealist or a Healer.

To give a little background information, the 16 personality types described on this scale are evaluated using the following criteria: someone could be an introvert or an extrovert, depending on whether they draw internal energy from themselves or from other people; people can take in information  Intuitively by seeing the big picture or Sensory by focusing intensely on the details; people can be driven by logic as a Thinker or emotions as a Feeler; and people can live their lives by Perceiving spontaneously or by Judging in an orderly fashion.

Each of the sixteen personality types presents its own strengths and challenges.  For example, as an INFP, I am very good at writing.  Many of the world renowned fantasy writers, such as J.R.R. Tolkien and J.K. Rowling have this personality type.  People who are INFP are very creative in general and are interested in helping the underdog through a cause of some sort.  Well, my cause at this stage in my life is to raise autism awareness in a way that only I can.

Some weaknesses associated with this personality type include the following: people who are INFP have an extreme dislike of conflict and will go to great lengths to avoid conflict; people who are INFP view any type of criticism as an attack on their entire character, but might show nothing of this pain to an observer.  These two weaknesses are a very big concern to me right now in my life.

I searched the Web to see if there are any resources that describe how INFP characteristics and autistic characteristics might interact with each other.  Finding none, I am going to try to create a resource myself right here on The Voice from the Spectrum.  This will certainly answer many questions I have about myself, as well as possibly prompting others to see how autism might interact with the other fifteen personality types.

A Heavy Question about Autism

I have a question for my readers that I hope will cause a discussion on this topic: do you think that people on the spectrum are prone to weight issues?  I am bringing up this topic for a couple reasons.  First of all, many medications used to treat negative autistic characteristics such as Risperdal cause an increase of appetite.  I have taken Risperdal for the past twelve years, and ever since that time I have been overweight.  Also, obsessive autistic behavior can cause habit where someone on the spectrum has to eat something at a certain time or they experience sensory issues.   Whether this same problem is common for people on the spectrum is a question I am trying to find out.  What do you think?

Dennis Leary Autistic Statement Response

I have never been particularly fond of practical jokes.  I personally prefer slapstick comedy like "The Three Stooges," or "America's Funniest Home Videos," or even "World's Dumbest Drivers."  However, in my experience, practical jokes are normally someone laughing at my expense.  I just never know how to react.

Recently, actor Dennis Leary made comments in his book about autism that has greatly offended many parents of autistic children as a joke.  Now, Leary is a good actor.  I particularly like the character "Diego" from the "Ice Age" franchise.  It won't stop me from seeing the new "Ice Age" movie. However, I can honestly say that I was offended by his statements that blamed parents for the behavior of their autistic children and stating that autistic kids are just "lazy" or "stupid."

That really irks me to no end.  I may have had difficulties in my own past where even I considered myself stupid, but in five months I will graduate from college with a Bachelor of Science and a 3.3 GPA.  If that is considered "stupid" then we really need to rethink our priorities as a society.  Jokes are supposed to be funny. Comparing stupid or lazy people to those many people on the spectrum is a very poor excuse for a joke, in my opinion.

To read the article about Leary's comments made in his book, click here.

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 07/23 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into my next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  During this show, I will talk about the strategies that I used to obtain a marketing internship last week with a local condominium developer in the area.  I talked about autism during that interview and was able to turn it into something positive.  To find out how, tune into the broadcast at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  Remember that you can call into the show to ask questions you might have about the broadcast material by dialing (619) 393-2848 or by using Skype on the show screen after the broadcast starts.  You can also participate in the chat room by supplying appropriate feedback and thoughts about the program.  Tune into what will surely be another great broadcast.
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Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 07/17 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Join me for the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  This week's show will feature guest, Stephanie Aberlich, who is the owner of Hatch Boutique photography studio.  Stephanie has taken photos of man special needs children.  She also teaches photography to autistic children in classes offered by OUCARES.

This broadcast will air at a slightly different time than normal.  The show will air Tuesday, July 17th at 3 pm EST, 12 pm PST, and 8 pm UK time.

Remember, as always, the chat room will be open for comments and feedback.  You can also call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can all in through Skype.  Remember to tune into what will surely be another great and insightful broadcast!

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Autistic Musical Prodigy

It's been a while since I have shared an autism success story, so I thought I should share this video that was recently brought to my attention.  This six your old boy is nothing short of amazing.  I could prattle on about this, but I'm going to keep this short so that you can view the video and draw your own judgment.  I'm only going to say that this is an example of what an individual with autism can accomplish under the right conditions with a proper support group.  Without further ado, click here to view the video.

Moving on...And Moving Out

A big question on the mind of many young adults with high functioning autism is gaining independence.  For many, this is a very difficult question indeed.  Autism presents many challenges for both children and parents. Aspirations that are shared by NT young adults, such as moving out, getting a place of their own, are much more complicated.

In my case, I am nearing the end of college.  By the end of this year, I will have my Bachelor Degree.  Sometime next year, I will finally move out and get a place of my own.  The notion of gaining independence, while challenging, is not as difficult for me as it would be for many on the high functioning end of the spectrum.  

Now, I offer something that I have said repeatedly on my radio programs in recent weeks: everyone on the autism spectrum is different than one another.  What might work for one person might not work for another.   As much as I would like to say it, there is no manual for autism.  

Before despairing, remember that living as an NT is difficult to.  For the autistic individual who feels that no one understands them, try to remember that most NT's don't understand each other either.  You don't have to look very far.  Just look at the current presidential race.  Republican and Democrats are at each other's throats and have been that way for a long time and will probably continue to be that way for years to come.  These are NTs who have very different ideas of how things should be done.  Both sides have different belief systems, and many claim not to understand each other.  So my message to those who effected by the spectrum, try to think of this example when things get hard.

So, going back now to the topic of independent living; I don't have all the answers to your problems.  What I can say is that you are not the only one with these difficulties.  There are many people impacted by autism.  So, if you would like, leave comments with any concerns you might have about independent living with high functioning autism.  Who knows: if I don't have the answers, maybe another one of my readers will.  I believe that under the right conditions with the right support group, and individual on the autism spectrum can literally change the world.  For some, that change starts right here: with The Voice from the Spectrum.  It starts with many difficulties that I have now overcome.

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 07/09 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Join me for my next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.   I'm back again after Independence Day and this week I will be talking about day camps that are available for individuals who are on the autism spectrum.

After I was diagnosed with high functioning autism at age 12, my mom signed me up for a local summer day camp for children and teens with special needs.  This camp is called Clarkson Scamp.  It runs for five weeks and consists of many activities that will be discussed during the broadcast.

You can join the discussion too by calling (619) 393-2848 during the broadcast or you can call in through Skype by selecting the Skype logo which will appear after the broadcast begins.  Tune into what will surely be another can't-miss broadcast!

This show will air on Monday, July 9th at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.  Click here when it is time for the show to start.

Another Celebrity Puts a Foot in His Mouth

Comments recently made by a well known celebrity have angered members of the autistic community.  Rapper 50 Cent made comments on his Twitter page that were offensive to individuals with autism and shows what a long way to go we have until we are able to spread enough autism awareness and acceptance in the world.

Whatever faults that 50 Cent has as a person is overshadowed by his presence in pop culture.  It is also important to consider the accompanying influence the popular rapper has over his fans, which are great in number.  Most of his fans that saw that statement on Twitter probably do not know or care about the public outrage this has caused.  I agree that 50 Cent's public apology is not enough.  

The damage has already been done.  A great number of people witnessed that statement and have been influenced by the words of this misguided celebrity.  What we need to do now is give this story as much exposure as possible so that the knowledge to fans that their celebrity icon spoke out of turn.

For more information about 50 Cent's remarks and the public response, click here.

Overloaded...Commencing Shutdown..!

Did you know that there are two ways that autistic individuals can become overwhelmed by sensory stimuli?  You have probably heard of the term meltdown. This is an external way of displaying the stress that sensory overload can sometimes cause that may result in violent outbursts, but have you heard of the term shutdown?  It is another way for an autistic individual to cope with extreme sensory overload internally.

I had never heard of the term shutdown until a few weeks ago.  Once I realized what it meant, I noticed that there are many instances in my life when my mind does shut down.  At these times, I may struggle to give simple answers, such as (I work at a grocery store) "where are the CDs located?"  

This actually did happen once a few years ago.  A customer at the grocery store I work at asked where the CD's were and my mind literally would not respond.  I had to fight for a few simple words that made me look like an idiot, in my own critical opinion of my behavior.  One of my coworkers had to answer the question for me and looked at me like I was stupid.  For the longest time, I felt guilty about not being able to answer a simple question where I knew the answer but could not communicate it.  Now, I understand that it was completely beyond my control at those brief moments.

Are there times when you have noticed yourself or your child or anyone on the spectrum seem to shutdown?

While you are thinking about that, here is a very useful video that I discovered earlier today.  It was shared by another autistic individual that I am friends with on Facebook.  It describes shutdowns quite well.  To view the video, click here.

A Note to My Readers

I hope you all have a fun and safe Independence Day.  Remember to be conscientious of those who are on the spectrum.  It doesn’t matter whether you are a parent, a sibling, someone witnessing a public meltdown, or even another individual on the spectrum who does not have the same problems.  Everyone who has autism is different.  Remember the phrase: "when you have met one person with autism, you have met one person with autism."  Everyone on the spectrum has different challenges they all face every day.  Let's try to make the world a better place for all of us!

Lakeside Anxiety

When I was a kid, one of my favorite summer activities was to take the boat out on Loon Lake and cruise around, maybe go fishing or tubing, enjoy the great outdoors.  There are many lakes in my hometown, Waterford Michigan, but the lake I went on the most was Loon Lake.  My grandparents used to own lakeside property over there, and they had a pontoon boat which we took out many times.  Sometimes, we went out on my dad's smaller boat which was better for tubing and traveling through the intersecting canals that lead to nearby lakes.

The only issue I really had with boating had to do with my anxiety.  I could not help imagining the worst.  What if the boat sank?  What if I fell out of the boat, hit my head, and no one noticed?  Okay, that seems like an extreme example but when you are in that state of mind, the anxiety is very real. It is also didn't help that I have the imagination of the inspiring fantasy novelist that I am, which made my scenarios sometimes tend on the surreal, at times.

Anxiety is a big problem for many higher functioning individuals who are on the autism spectrum, including myself.  What things might your child be anxious about?  In my case, I can find something to be anxious about in almost every situation I find myself in.  This is something that I am working on and I'm getting better.

Dazzling Fireworks...A Sensory Nightmare??

Fireworks are a traditional part of Independence Day here in American.  Apart from organized events scattered throughout the country, firecrackers, sparklers, and numerous other pyrotechnic goodies are available in retail outlets for anyone to use and enjoy.

I was born and raised in Waterford Michigan.  In this area, you cannot go for a mile without coming across a lack.  They are the direct result of glaciers that traveled across this area in another time.   Due to numerous lakes, there are a series of fireworks events leading up to and following Independence Day.  When I was younger, Fireworks really hurt my ears.  I had to cover them in order to avoid the pain.  When I was about six or seven years old, my mom had me try to fall asleep during a firework show. This was not a pleasant experience.

This was before I knew about autism and sensory processing disorders.  My advice to parents is to try to avoid fireworks shows with your autistic children or at least keep a close eye on how they react to the displays that charm so many.  If he seems distressed during the show, then it is hurting him.  Get him out of there and try to soothe the meltdown.

For whatever reason, my hearing is not as sensitive as it used to be.  Fireworks don't bother me the way they did when I was a child.  So, try to be conscientious of the sensory difficulties your child might have during a firework display, but other than that, try to enjoy the show!A

Summer Time Means More Time For...

For many kids, summer time means more time to do the things that they love.  For high functioning autistic children and teens, this means more time to pursue their obsession.  World famous autism advocate Temple Grandin believes that childhood obsessions have a high likelihood of turning into careers.  My advice for parents is that if, for example, your high functioning autistic child would rather look at rocks through a magnifying glass than play outside with NT children, don't try to force him to do something he or she does not want to do.  Encourage this interest in any way possible.  Who knows, he might be a geologist.  Just some food for thought.

Safe Summer Fun

Summer is in full swing now and the temperatures are rising to eighty, ninety, and even one hundred degrees Fahrenheit.  In these warm temperatures, many of us prefer to perform a lot of fun activities outdoors.  These warm temperatures also bring a certain danger: dehydration.  While having fun outdoors, is very important to drink enough water.  Individuals on the spectrum, particularly those who are nonverbal, might not be able to communicate effectively that they are starting to feel bad.  My message to parents is to make sure your children are drinking enough water.  Most especially, I advise that you observe your autistic children to identify the signs of dehydration or worse issues, if necessary.  I hope you all have a fun and safe summer and make sure that you stay safe and drink enough water. 

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 06/25 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Tune into the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  During this broadcast, host I will interview Dr. Janet Graetz, Associate Professor at Oakland University and recognized autism expert.  During this interview, I will talk with Jan about some of the work she has done with autistic individuals as well as suggestions she has to raise autism awareness.

You can contribute to the discussion too!  Just call into the show by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can call in through Skype.  Tune into what will surely be another great and insightful broadcast!

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Happy Father's Day!

I just wanted to take a moment to wish all the fathers out there a happy father's day!  My dad is not the type of person to sugarcoat what he has to say.  He has been called abrupt and isn't bothered by it at all. He is better with cars than I will probably ever be.  When I was younger, my dad sacrificed a lot in order to get a college degree so that he could continue to give my brother and me the best life possible.  While he is not always the most patient person in the world, he still talks about all the things he should have said to a teacher who gave up on me when I was having my difficulties.  Right now, I have an arrangement with him to leave college without any debt, which will give me a huge advantage over other college students who are entering the workforce.  This is the best gift I could ever hope to receive as a graduation gift later this year.  While he is not perfect, I could not ask for a better dad!  Happy father's day to my dad and all the other dads out there!

Is Honesty Enough?

While there are many difficulties associated with autism, there is one trait that can distinguish many individuals who are on the autism spectrum.  We are the ones who can be counted on to tell the absolute truth.  It is a trait that is embedded in our nature.  This trait can make it difficult to understand irony and sarcasm: although I can understand some instances of sarcasm and use it myself, I can still be thrown off by a sarcastic statement spoken in a normal tone of voice.  Anyway, we who are on the spectrum instinctively tell the truth.  Honesty is a widely undervalued virtue in today's society.  Would you rather have a friend who tells you the absolute truth all the time or one who tells you what they think you want to hear?

Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 06/18 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

Join me for the next broadcast of Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk.  Coming on the broadcast once again is Frank Allen.  Frank is an artist from the UK who is on the autism spectrum.  I will be interviewing Frank about his artwork and speaking of autism from both of our perspectives.

You can too by calling into the show.  Just dial (619) 393-2848 or call in through Skype. Tune into the show on Monday, June 18th at 1 pm EST, 10 PST, and 6 pm UK time.   This broadcast is sponsored by Positively Autistic from the UK.  

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Junior Positively Autistic: Ryan's Spectrum Talk 06/11 by Positively Autistic | Blog Talk Radio

During this broadcast, writer and autism advocate I will talk about some strategies that he uses to stay focused on what needs to be done in my life.  One characteristic of an ASD disorder is difficulty with clear thought, so it is an important topic to discuss.

The show will air at 1 pm EST, 10 am PST, and 6 pm UK time.

 Remember that you can call into the broadcast to share your feedback by dialing (619) 393-2848 or you can call in through Skype.

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Settle Down with Change

Parents of autistic children know that their children have difficulty coping with change.  One aspect of coping with change that I have observed in my own life is something that I will call settling.  This is a term I came up with earlier that describes when I begin to accept that a change in my life is inevitable and I start searching for a new routine.  This is basically framework that I can begin to find some order in my thoughts and feelings while coping with change.  It can be a certain activity I perform at a new position at work in a certain order or it can be a certain place I might place my things while staying in a hotel room.  Sometimes, a small change can make me feel lost and uncertain.  Settling or finding new routine or familiarity can help me to adjust better, otherwise change is much more difficult to bear and that feeling of uncertainty becomes increasingly agitating.  Since I have high functioning autism, it will, of course, be very different for those with different forms of ASD.

Have any of you noticed your child settling after a change?  Comment and share your experiences.